So, for my first blog entry

For those smart people out there, you can probably guess that I am in the process of going through a divorce and wanting custody of my children.

Now the most common response over the last couple of months is "oh boy, yet another father wanting revenge!"

So for my first posting, let me set the record straight. (Until the divorce is complete, I will also be refraining from using my children, my soon to be ex wife and my real names for obvious reasons).

Another shocking revelation is that I was not the cause for the breakdown of my marriage. I was infact in love with this woman I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. I would have done anything to make her happy. Unfortunately this did not work out as planned and our marriage broke down.

The reasons for me wanting custody although linked to her infidelities, goes way beyond them. Please, do not get me wrong. I am not for one moment saying that she does not love the children, infact I am sure she would kill for them if the need arises. What I am saying is that some of her life choices and actions are not conducive to rearing children. Again, for now I will be refraining from specifics because the one thing I have learnt, is that a court case such as this is much like playing poker... DO NOT SHOW YOUR HAND TO EARLY.

Now, back to the reason for this blog...

This whole ordeal has proven to be an emotional roller coaster of note. What I am hoping to achieve with this blog is:

• Serve as a support mechanism to me. So I encourage readers / followers to share their experiences and advise.
• I am hoping for this blog to serve as a support forum to others as well going through this difficult time.

Please, I DO NOT want this blog to turn into a bitching session about our previously significant others, but rather a mechanism for us to share practices that helped those who were successful in getting full custody of their children.

I am not a lawyer, psychologist or life coach and am not for one moment claiming that advise / experiences found on this blog will get you custody; I'm not even certain that I will get custody. What I promising, is to share experiences and God willing, should I be successful in my endeavor, my experiences will be useful to others attempting that same challenge.

For now, I have to be off to bed, I have to be up early to my eldest cricket game. I will leave you with a quote by one Joseph Chilton Pearce:

For only as we ourselves, as adults, actually move and have our being in the state of love, can we be appropriate models and guides for our children. What we are teaches the child far more than what we say, so we must be what we want our children to become.