Frustrations building up again today…

So last week when I called to speak to my boys, my 4 year old says he went to the Dr. When I asked the X about this, she denied it and said she was the one that went to the Dr. Over the weekend when putting the little ones into her car, I saw an invoice for this Dr. I did some detective work and it turns out that yes she saw the Dr, but so to were the kids.

Further investigating revealed that my eldest has been seeing a Psychologist again. Now I do not have a problem with him seeing the Psychologist or any Dr, I do have a problem with the fact that she is keeping such information from me. I have a right to know

In terms of interim maintenance, more than half of my salary goes to them and her claim to this is that I am their father and it is my responsibility. My responsibility when it suites her?????

Why does she need to lie to me? It seems more and more that she has a phobia of the truth and gives me even more reason not to trust her. I realise that no matter what happened between us, we are apart of each others lives for as long as those boys are arond and as such, need to have some sort of civil relationship, however, what she says cannot be trusted…

I guess all I can do for now is communicate with her via the lawyers, keep record of all responses. I also guess that each time she pulls a stunt as she has re-enforces the reasons why we were not meant to be.

I don’t regret out marriage, if it were not for that, I would not have these three beautiful boys… so for that I will still thank her, but trust her, never ever again.

IF you reading this X, save yourself, me and the boys a whole lot of heartache. Be truthful to yourself when answering this question... If our roles were reversed adn I did the things you have done and currently doing, would you be comfortable having me raise our children? Will you be comfortable with me being their role model? Would you feel that our children is safe with me?...

“With lies you may go ahead in the world - but you can never go back”


"Sometimes the lies you tell are less frightening than the loneliness you might feel if you stopped telling them."
(Brock Clarke, An Arsonist's Guide to Writers' Homes in New England, 2007)